From June 19, 2013
You feel like you’re getting better at tango. You’ve been receiving compliments, and you’ve ventured out to other places/cities to dance. But part of you can’t help but notice that so many other dancers are better at this than you. We feel anxiety creeping in. And maybe there’s guilt, too, for comparing ourselves when we know we shouldn’t be.
Weren’t we here to have fun?
Here’s the reality of the situation: No matter how good you become at tango, there will always be someone better. Someone more talented. Someone more experienced. Someone thinner. Someone better-looking. Someone taller. Someone shorter. Someone with bigger muscles. Someone with hotter shoes. Someone with more hair (or less).
Gee, thanks Joe. With all the stuff going on in our lives, do we really need more reasons to feel insecure?
No, of course not.
That being said, we’re also not here to knock others off the imaginary pedestals we’ve created in our heads, because that would be a colossal waste of time as well.
Now, if you have to be better than someone, be a better dancer than you were last week. Is there something you did on the dance floor last Saturday that you couldn’t do as well the previous weekend? If so, then you’ve gotten a little better.
And next week?
Go for the same thing. Do what you need to do so that in seven days, you’ll be a better dancer than you are right now. And when you accomplish that, do it again the following week.
Even if it’s only a small improvement, it still matters. There’s no limit to how good you can be when your personal record becomes the only competition you’re interested in beating.