“This guy can’t lead!”
“I don’t know what he’s doing!”
“She’s not following well and keeps anticipating!”
“I need to dance with someone better!”
Let’s not fall into the trap of thinking that our biggest problem in tango is a bad dance partner. A mindset like that will be a recipe for serious disappointment when we realize that a more highly skilled partner fails to magically turn us into better dancers. Not only will better partners fail to erase our flaws, but if anything, they’ll make our flaws more apparent.
Now it may very well be true that the people we have trouble dancing with have plenty to work on.
But a satisfying tango experience starts with us, and perhaps two questions to ask: What is is that we ourselves need to improve? And are we overrating our own abilities?