It’s good to be inspired by other tango dancers and to look upon them as role models. They can give us a sense of structure as we work on our own dancing.
But when we say, ”I want to dance like him/her” or “I want to be him/her” while not speaking in hyperbole, we’re just setting ourselves up for frustration. As we work hard to get better, we can take every opportunity to get angry at ourselves because “we don’t look like [insert name of dancer(s) you want to emulate or are secretly jealous of here].
Or, we can find ways of taking all that we’ve learned, and set off on our own unexplored paths. The dancers we admire have something in common with us, in that we’re all unique.
It might be useful to liken our growth as tango dancers to creating a painting. Would we rather be works of original art, or forgeries?