With every partner and every dance, there comes a measure of unpredictability. Followers obviously don’t know what the leader is going to do. And leaders don’t know exactly what kind of dynamic the followers will bring once the tanda starts.
When we first size up a partner, we often have an idea of how we think the dance will (or should) go. But instead of forcing that idea into reality, let it play out. Let’s give our partners a chance to surprise and delight us.
Instead of being looked upon with fear, it’s more useful (and enjoyable) to regard uncertainty with a sense of adventure. Of course, a good dance is not guaranteed. But good dances never happen if we obsess over everything that might go wrong.