If we’re connecting well with a tango partner, it’s easy to mentally go on “auto-pilot.” But (big surprise) people aren’t always predictable, and there’s no way to be sure of what’s going on in a dancer’s head. The leader might suddenly alter his/her routine, or the follower might try an elegant adornment to accent the music.
If we’re too comfortable and let our brains get lazy, we might miss those important moments. We should be paying attention, but not with the stressful mindset of “constantly being on guard.”
Surprises shouldn’t be looked upon as potential pitfalls or random moments intended to throw us off. Try thinking of them as positive interruptions, like randomly finding a dollar bill on the sidewalk. Expect surprises – they’re designed to make the dancing fun, not scary.