Tango is a dance that deals heavily with uncertainty. This is particularly true for followers, who literally have no idea what the leader will do next. And leaders have no guarantee that the steps they want to try will clearly be communicated to their partners.
But we tend to have a reflexive aversion to uncertainty. As soon as it pops up on our mental radars, we try to avoid it. We want to minimize the possibility of being caught off guard or embarrassing ourselves. One way of doing this is trying to exert absolute control over the dance. But as we all know, if either partner tries this, tango won’t work. Ironically, attempting absolute control only increases the chances of suffering the very embarrassment we wish to avoid.
But once we step onto the dance floor, there’s not much we can do in the way of preparation. So the only thing left is to dive right into the uncertainty… to explore it, and immerse ourselves in it.
So what’s it like being in the eye of this imaginary hurricane? Is it really that frightening? Is the act of not having (or not trying to have) absolute control such a bad thing? The surprising answer, again and again, is NO.
If exerting total control is no guarantee that things will go right, then isn’t it true that embracing uncertainty is also no guarantee that things will go wrong?